High Above The Crowds And City Lights

I finally write about it in DigiDame. Everyone spends a fortune on weddings that eventually fade in my memory. I will remember every detail of this one.

The wedding of Rachel Heyman, 36 and Adam Joseph, 43, will forever be one of our favorite New York stories. Eliot and I are long time friends of the groom, Adam, and now we have the bonus of Rachael. We feel very fortunate.

We attended a number of other weddings with Adam. He is the first cousin of our two godson’s, Philip and Brett Sklaw. Adam often told me he was born to be married. He was looking for the right woman. There were a few attempts, but that’s to be expected when you are looking for the perfect fit.

We are so proud of this awesome couple. The pandemic didn’t stop them from getting married on one of the most important nights of the year, New Year’s Eve. They picked the most romantic spot ever, the balcony of Rachel’s childhood apartment in the best city in the world. NYC, the city that never sleeps, is now home to the most creative wedding ever. The New York Times covered this storybook dream come true.

Speed Swiping Right to a Warm, Winning Smile


Rachel Jennifer Heyman did some quick-fire swiping on the Tinder dating app at her apartment in Manhattan one Saturday evening in January 2019 with her friend over glasses of wine, a variety of Trader Joe’s appetizers and reality TV.

“At points we would take each other’s phone,” she said, and swiped right for each other while sitting by the fireplace in the duplex Ms. Heyman shared with another friend on the Upper West Side. “It was easily a night of 50 to 100 swipes. Not that I’m liking all of them.

Ms. Heyman, on and off dating sites for a decade, said she let potential matches “marinate” a couple of days before reaching out to Adam Seth Joseph, whose “warm smile” on the photo he posted caught her eye.

“We had this great normal banter,” said Ms. Heyman, 36, a clinical social worker, is the director of the opioid treatment program at the Center for Comprehensive Health Practice in East Harlem in Manhattan. She graduated from Binghamton University, and received a master’s in social work from the University of Pennsylvania. “It was familiar, with no crazy red flags,” she said. “I loved that he was a special ed teacher and close to his family.”

Mr. Joseph, 43, works at St. Mary’s Hospital for Children in Bayside, Queens, where he is a special-education teacher for P.S. Q23 at Queen’s Children Center. He graduated from SUNY Old Westbury and received a master’s degree in special education from Touro College.

“We understood the challenges of each other’s jobs,” she said.

But, the connection fizzled after two weeks. He was caught up in moving into his new co-op in Oakland Gardens, Queens, after a couple of years of staying with various friends after a tough breakup.


After losing touch for two weeks, something tugged at her while she was a mentor at a girl’s leadership retreat at the Main Idea at Camp Walden, a summer camp for economically-disadvantaged girls in Denmark, Maine.

“Camp makes me happy,” she recalled thinking. “These girls make me happy. Maybe, I was allowed to be happy. I reached out.”

That also gave Mr. Joseph, the boost he needed, and in mid-February, the day after he moved into his apartment, they met at an Upper West Side bar.

“I felt seen, and beautiful,” she said, as they walked over to Bar Veloce, after the first bar was too crowded.

Later when he asked if he passed the first level of the date, and she said yes, they went for sushi at Momoya across the street.

“It was the best first date I had ever been on,” he said, and they had a quick good-night kiss outside the 72nd Street subway.

After he began to walk away, he recalled, she shouted, “‘wait, wait, wait, one more.’” And, they had another quick kiss.

“I was honestly floating at that point,” she said.

They began dating and by the end of 2019 they spoke about getting married. She agreed to “change ZIP codes” and move to Queens after her lease was up in June 2020. But as the coronavirus pandemic set in, she began living there in March.

On Aug. 1, he proposed in a small park along the Hudson River in Hastings-on-Hudson, N.Y.

On Dec. 31, around 6:30 p.m., Shawn A. Cammy, ordained by American Marriage Ministries and her brother-in-law, officiated at a ceremony incorporating Jewish elements. About 150 friends and family watched on Zoom, as they married on the Upper East Side apartment terrace of the bride’s parents. Only immediate family attended in person.

“It ended and began the year on a sweet note,” she said.

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Five years ago today Eliot Hess sold this photo at the Williams McCall Gallery. Panorama view of South Beach. #southbeachmiami #panorama #blackandwhitephotography #oceanview #rooftops #photooftheday.

Your Poop Finally Has a Voice

I have a dirty little secret. Future toilet bowls will be able to tell you how healthy you are every time you make a deposit. Of course, the king of all toilet bowls, Toto, will probably be the first to analyze your waste but Koehler is not that far behind (oops, excuse the pun).

At CES this year we learned that smart toilets are on their way to become health trackers. The category will be called the “wellness toilet.” It will analyze your skin and all of your droppings to give you recommendations on ways to improve your health.

The toilet will be connected to an app which will monitor your skin, diet and bathroom habits.

So now your at home scale will not be the only bathroom appliance telling you your weight and body fat.

I can just hear my future toilet now talking to me. “You fat piece of s—-t. Lay off the sugar and alcohol.” And I will say “I’m not going to let you talk to me that way.” Flush!

Koehler is going to introduce the touchless toilets and faucet line later this year. The idea is to help you avoid as many germs as possible.

Just think how healthy and clean you are going to be. You may not even want to wear clothes anymore.

Here are three links to stories that the WSJ, Tech Republic, and CNET wrote on the new world of bathroom appliances.





Read all about it. The timing couldn’t be more perfect.


This Is Going To Blow Your Mind

Click on the CNET link below to see how you will be able to expand the screen on all of the devices you will be using in the future.

CES debuts phone screens that roll out into table size units. This is a wow factor.

First there were phones that folded — now there are some that can roll. CNET’s Kara Tsuboi tells us more about the rollable screens she saw at CES. You might be able to buy some of these this year.



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The Next Giant Step In Remote Meetings Debuts At CES

Everyone is asking me what was the most exciting, or interesting, thing I saw at virtual CES. Without further ado, I am going to immediately show you. It’s a HoloPresence technology that is capable of projecting a person in hologram form, in real time, across the world.

This is perfect for presentations, meetings, and conventions. Presenters and audiences, in the future, may look like they are live, but they really will be in the form of a hologram.

The ARHT Media is the company who created this new technology. Please go to the company’s site, www.arhtmedia.com, to see holograms in action. Make sure you click on the arrow once or twice to make it work.

Let me know what you think.


The Last 24 Hours

The American Eagle flew over Miami at sunset to let everyone know we are all going to be okay. Photo by Eliot Hess


I had a quasi meltdown watching the incompetence. I would fire the security for the Capitol. There is no reason in the world that it took hours for the proper law enforcement to arrive to protect our elected officials. This could have been pre-planned by Trump and it wouldn’t surprise me if he held back the protection needed.