Joaquin Phoenix

Many of my friends who have computer-related jobs are talking about Spike Jonze’s movie, “Her”. Most of them really enjoyed the movie because they can relate to having a personal relationship with a computer. Those folks who didn’t like the movie, in my opinion, probably resent the way computers have taken over our lives.

The movie explores the relationship between a male writer, Theodore, played by Joaquin Phoenix, and a “female” advanced operating system, Samantha, purchased and installed by Theodore on his computer. Samantha is voiced by Scarlett Johansson.

Eliot liked the movie a lot but felt it wasn’t cinematic enough. He said it would have made a great play. I don’t necessarily agree, but I was more focused on the dynamics of the relationship. Heartbroken after the end of his marriage, the writer becomes intrigued with the engaging female voice on his computer. She is bright, insightful, sensitive, and funny.

I didn’t see much difference between a man and a digital woman versus a man and a human woman. At first, everything is very passionate. Then the realities of life set in. That’s when the value of a relationship is truly measured.

While the Internet has provided all of us with a wealth of information and accessibility, I believe it has also made us much more selfish and self absorbed. “Her” touches on love in the digital arena where everyone’s favorite pastime is taking selfie photos.

However, you can’t convince me that the Internet is destroying the relationships of today. There are plenty of other distraction causing splits. Those who want to stay together make it work.

My favorite line from the movie is “Something happens every moment that changes us every moment.” That might not be the exact words but you get the drift. In the age of the Internet, we all are having difficulty identifying who we are. The world is changing way too fast.